Archive for May, 2016

Equally Martha & Mary

at the feet of JesusI am very introspective.

Last week I was contemplating and I realised that I was a Martha. I was reflecting on Luke 10:38-42 where Jesus visits the home of Lazarus and his sisters Mary and Martha. Martha welcomed Jesus into house clearly the one with the gift of hospitality and proceeded to get things ready in the kitchen etc. while Mary  was more content to sit at the feet of Jesus and listen to Him speak. Martha became very annoyed because she was overwhelmed with all the hosting while Mary just sat there having a good time!

Very recently I found myself in a place of frustration, worn out, feeling very empty, no enthusiasm for any of my roles or responsibilities, overwhelmed. Looking back I realised that I had spent so much time giving and working like Martha, that I hadn’t taken the time to re-charge my batteries & fill my cup so that I could pour out into others again. I didn’t have time to read the word and maintain my personal walk with God, I was coasting on the reserves that I’d filled through the years.

Jesus said to Martha when she complained to Him about the situation and asked Him to tell Mary to help, that Mary had chosen the better thing.It is so important when in a leadership role or just in general to make time to sit at the feet of Jesus like Mary. This Worship song by Kari Jobe- ‘The more I seek you’ became life to me.

I want to sit at your feet
Drink from the cup in your hand.tree by river
Lay back against you and breathe, feel your heart beat
This love is so deep, its more than I can stand
I melt in your peace, its overwhelming

Matthew 1:14 states: ‘But he answered, ‘It is written, “‘Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that comes from the mouth of God.’ I must have heard this scripture a hundred times from childhood to now, but it’s so true. Because I didn’t take the time to eat the word, I was Spiritually dying. Reserves are fine for a while but reserves are what they are, a finite supply for a time of hardship. Unless those reserves are replenished, you will find yourself in a state of lack; a dangerous place to be.

God wants us to flourish. But we have to stay connected to Him. Psalm 1:1-3 springs to mind. Blessed is the one who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockers, but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,  and who meditates on his law day and night. That person is like a tree planted by streams of water, which yields its fruit in season and whose leaf does not wither—  whatever they do prospers.’ As long as we stay connected to God by meditating on His word day and night (stay connected with ) along with living the kind of life He expects of us, we will flourish like a tree that has a direct feed to water.

Remember the Word of God is the manual for our life (Psalms 119:105), if we do not know what the manual says, we will never e able to make full use of this life that we have. We may be able to figure some things out on our own, but there is so much more that we will never tap into because our mind cannot perceive what it has never been inspired by.

There’s a time to be like Martha and work, but never forget to be like Mary; take time out despite the responsibilities and pressures of life to sit at the feet of Jesus, bask in His presence, top up our reserves and then some so that we can live the prosperous lives God knows we’re fully capable of living!

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They DO Exist!!!

PatienceDear Single & Celibate ladies waiting on their Godly man,

My work colleagues and I rarely eat together, but we did a few weeks ago and something really small but very profound happened that I want to share with you today and as I share this I wish to encourage you and myself on this lonely and arduous journey that there are good, Godly, manly* men out there and ours will find us when the time is right.

So we were having lunch together and the table was wonkey, therefore wobbling whenever you put any pressure on it- easily done. I hadn’t even noticed until one of my colleagues said, ‘This is really annoying innit?’ anyway, without a second thought he leaned down and did whatever it was he did and the table was no longer wobbly.

I felt myself getting very emotional at that point and wondered why, but then I realised this little scenario was what I realised a gentle reminder from God to be patient, not to settle because I’m getting frustrated about my singleness and not to become bitter or closed off because the last frog I kissed did not turn out to be a prince. I hate this analogy of kissing frogs by the way. I always say, God’s way is the best way and I like to see what God says about a particular situation before I do anything, but what did I do? Break my own rules. (In my heart, i eventually admitted that I was actually frustrated with myself for being impatient, when I know better).

man head of householdAnywho0, the simple act of fixing the table without anyone asking him to or being nagged or wondering if it’s his place to do so reminded me of the type of man that I want for myself, that I am praying for. He will take control and be the head of our household and lead us in prayer and fix the broken chairs and change the light bulbs and carry the heavy stuff to the car because WE will need OUR womb after our 2 year honeymoon period is over so he won’t watch me burst my boyo while he’s having a good time with his mates. 1 Cor. 2:28 ‘But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.’

I managed to hold my tears back- I’m good at that by the way-and it just stuck with me all day. God has good plans for us, he says in Jeremiah 29:11 ‘For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ We just have to be patient and trust that all in God’s time, he will come through, but if we are impatient we stand to lose a great deal more. Take for example Saul ( 1Sam 13:8-14), who could not wait on the man of God to offer the sacrifice before their battle and decided to take matters into his own hands and offered the sacrifice himself- foolish man. That single act as we read in verse 14 caused him to lose his crown; a heavy price to pay.

Ladies, don’t be discouraged, keep praying, keep believing. God loves us as his dear princesses and want only the best for us, but we need to be faithful and never doubt or lower standards by taking matters into our own hands- it won’t end well.

And while we’re waiting patiently let’s work on ourselves, build up our relationship with God. We all have things in our life that make us imperfect people, the work doesn’t stop because we’re lonely, or frustrated or tired; we are first women of God in all situations, let’s keep our focus where it should be so when our man comes along we have a few less issues to work on and we’re a much stronger woman ready to put some work in because singleness is one battle. When we are wedded, the other battle starts. while there is much sweetness in it *wink wink, there is much difficulty; It’s a whole different kind of living. But this battle we fight with our husband together, as a unit, pooling all the resources spiritually we were storing up while we were single.

Life is hard, one battle after the other, but as the good old song says, ‘with Christ in the vessel, we can smile at the storm.’

Stay encouraged ladies, we know Jesus is coming, that’s a fact, but our men are also coming…soon. 🙂

Stay encouraged and blessed,

Single & Celibate ladies waiting on my Godly man



*Clarification: when I say manly men, I mean men who recognise their roles as men, embrace it and live it. Also men who are good with their hands or make an effort in terms of fixing tings and carrying stuff what with them being the stronger vessel and all…*sips tea. Call me old fashioned, I don’t care. I am. That’s just me. Like it or lump it.