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They DO Exist!!!

PatienceDear Single & Celibate ladies waiting on their Godly man,

My work colleagues and I rarely eat together, but we did a few weeks ago and something really small but very profound happened that I want to share with you today and as I share this I wish to encourage you and myself on this lonely and arduous journey that there are good, Godly, manly* men out there and ours will find us when the time is right.

So we were having lunch together and the table was wonkey, therefore wobbling whenever you put any pressure on it- easily done. I hadn’t even noticed until one of my colleagues said, ‘This is really annoying innit?’ anyway, without a second thought he leaned down and did whatever it was he did and the table was no longer wobbly.

I felt myself getting very emotional at that point and wondered why, but then I realised this little scenario was what I realised a gentle reminder from God to be patient, not to settle because I’m getting frustrated about my singleness and not to become bitter or closed off because the last frog I kissed did not turn out to be a prince. I hate this analogy of kissing frogs by the way. I always say, God’s way is the best way and I like to see what God says about a particular situation before I do anything, but what did I do? Break my own rules. (In my heart, i eventually admitted that I was actually frustrated with myself for being impatient, when I know better).

man head of householdAnywho0, the simple act of fixing the table without anyone asking him to or being nagged or wondering if it’s his place to do so reminded me of the type of man that I want for myself, that I am praying for. He will take control and be the head of our household and lead us in prayer and fix the broken chairs and change the light bulbs and carry the heavy stuff to the car because WE will need OUR womb after our 2 year honeymoon period is over so he won’t watch me burst my boyo while he’s having a good time with his mates. 1 Cor. 2:28 ‘But I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ, the head of a wife is her husband, and the head of Christ is God.’

I managed to hold my tears back- I’m good at that by the way-and it just stuck with me all day. God has good plans for us, he says in Jeremiah 29:11 ‘For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’ We just have to be patient and trust that all in God’s time, he will come through, but if we are impatient we stand to lose a great deal more. Take for example Saul ( 1Sam 13:8-14), who could not wait on the man of God to offer the sacrifice before their battle and decided to take matters into his own hands and offered the sacrifice himself- foolish man. That single act as we read in verse 14 caused him to lose his crown; a heavy price to pay.

Ladies, don’t be discouraged, keep praying, keep believing. God loves us as his dear princesses and want only the best for us, but we need to be faithful and never doubt or lower standards by taking matters into our own hands- it won’t end well.

And while we’re waiting patiently let’s work on ourselves, build up our relationship with God. We all have things in our life that make us imperfect people, the work doesn’t stop because we’re lonely, or frustrated or tired; we are first women of God in all situations, let’s keep our focus where it should be so when our man comes along we have a few less issues to work on and we’re a much stronger woman ready to put some work in because singleness is one battle. When we are wedded, the other battle starts. while there is much sweetness in it *wink wink, there is much difficulty; It’s a whole different kind of living. But this battle we fight with our husband together, as a unit, pooling all the resources spiritually we were storing up while we were single.

Life is hard, one battle after the other, but as the good old song says, ‘with Christ in the vessel, we can smile at the storm.’

Stay encouraged ladies, we know Jesus is coming, that’s a fact, but our men are also coming…soon. 🙂

Stay encouraged and blessed,

Single & Celibate ladies waiting on my Godly man



*Clarification: when I say manly men, I mean men who recognise their roles as men, embrace it and live it. Also men who are good with their hands or make an effort in terms of fixing tings and carrying stuff what with them being the stronger vessel and all…*sips tea. Call me old fashioned, I don’t care. I am. That’s just me. Like it or lump it.